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Are We All Broken?

July 2, 2011 Leave a Comment

Personal growth is something that naturally occurs in our lifetime. From diapers to, well diapers again, we are constantly bombarded with messages about self-improvement. We need to be this; we need to be that – it never seems to end. While it is true that none of us is truly perfect, we really do not need to spend every moment thinking we are terribly broken.

Certainly there are habits and character flaws that need addressed when they interfere with leading a productive and satisfying life. That is not to say that we must become obsessed with the road to self-improvement.

For the most part, much of what we are and want to be is controlled by how we think. What we say to ourselves is very powerful. Our perceptions are based on our experiences. They can influence whether we predominantly see things in a positive light or a negative light. A popular writer on this subject is Dr. Shad Helmstetter.

Personal development is a personal journey in which no two people will take the same path. We gain confidence by encouragement from others so in some cases we seek others that we believe are on a similar journey. Those seeking physical development may join a gym. Sports enthusiasts become members of clubs. Those on a spiritual journey go to churches, temples or religious retreats.

Other pursuits are more private and we turn to books or the Internet for guidance rather than discuss with others. Striving to break certain bad habits or addictions often begin this way. Some are successful but others end up needing help from groups and/or professionals.

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While people may think that self-improvement is a new development, it truly is not. Throughout our history there have been people who were the epitome of improvement. There are those that have pulled themselves out of the worst of conditions to succeed. Consider Benjamin Franklin’s success from humble beginnings.

We all are able to become everything we wish to become. The tools are all around us, we just need determination and sometimes a bit of guidance. Yes, we are broke, but the journey of repair is very rewarding and fulfilling.

Filed Under: Tips Tagged With: Benjamin Franklin, Personal development, Self-help

Looking Good On A First Date

June 30, 2011 Leave a Comment

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When going out on a date, everyone wants to look their best. LRG clothes, Nike apparel, Dereon clothing and many other brands appeal to the masses and therefore are usually a safe bet for casual, but sharp looking date attire. Now some may here these brand names and go into a panic over spending a lot of money; in this day and age expenses must be tracked and kept in balance. However, you should know that these brands are quite reasonably priced.LRG clothes, the latest shoe styles and trendy accessories are quite appealing and in demand.

Other ways to look good on a date include making sure your hair and makeup are just right. Good grooming is always appreciated! Don’t believe it? See what happens on a date when you don’t take care of your one eyebrow! Taking the time and effort to do this will not be a waste.

Now of course beauty is not only skin deep; looking good on a date is not all about appearance, it’s about impression too! Guys, how about a bit of chivalry? We’re not saying roll out the red carpet and throw your jacket in a puddle for a lady, but some flowers and good manners will not go a miss! Ladies, the same goes for you too, be considerate, polite, and courteous to your date; it’s the little things that make all the difference.

Filed Under: Dating Etiquette

Finance Tips for Couples Living Together

June 26, 2011 Leave a Comment

When you first get married, one of the most important things that you will have to learn to work together on is finances. If you aren’t on the same page as your spouse, you can get into a lot of debt fast. Here are some tips to prevent this.

Set a Budget

The first thing you’ll want to do is talk to each other about a budget. If you both know how much you make, you can more easily understand how much can be spent on expenses and how much should be saved. Be sure to discuss what things are important to you and your partner. For example, is going on vacation important? If so, how much should be set aside each month so you can go on vacation? If something costs more than what is budgeted, are you both OK with getting online personal loans, or would you rather wait and save up?

Big Purchases

Never make a big purchase without consulting your partner. What qualifies as a “big purchase” will depend on your own situation. For many couples, this might mean any item that costs more than $100, but for others, it may be more or less. Decide as a couple what that means for you. This should help prevent problems with overdraft, which can easily happen when two people are withdrawing money from the same account. It’s also good because one partner might not want to spend money on this item or that item, and discussing it before you purchase will help prevent arguments about money. To keep your love alive and prevent strife, communication is the key when it comes to finances.

Filed Under: Lifestyle, Relationships Tagged With: Budget, Finance, Personal finance

Romantic Halloween Date Ideas

June 24, 2011 Leave a Comment

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When it comes to Halloween, most people don’t think of romance, but there’s always time for romance if you take the time to plan for it. Here are some ideas for how to make your next Halloween one of romance.

The Costumes

What would Halloween be like without costumes? If you want to add more romance to your next Halloween date, consider getting costumes for Halloween that represent romantic figures throughout time. This could be Romeo and Juliet, Adam and Eve, Mary and Joseph, Cinderella and Prince Charming, and so on. For men, getting their sweethearts a costume in her size that makes her feel beautiful is a great way to show thoughtfulness and make her feel special. Just be sure to let her know ahead of time that you have something special planned for Halloween so she doesn’t make any other plans.

The Date

The next thing to plan after costumes is a date. Taking her to a romantic restaurant is good, but a little cliché. A better option is to pick a romantic location where you can set up a small table with two chairs. If you choose somewhere outdoors, be sure that the costumes are warm so you and your date aren’t chilled.

Make sure the lighting is dim with some candles about. Order food from your date’s favorite restaurant or cook some food yourself. If there’s specific food that goes along with your costumes, consider using that food or even decorations that fit.

Planning a romantic date on Halloween will truly surprise your sweetheart, and show much more thoughtfulness than one on Valentine’s Day, which is expected.

Filed Under: Dating Etiquette, Love Tagged With: Costume, Halloween, Halloween costume

Being There on Time

June 23, 2011 Leave a Comment

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Much of the power structure of a relationship is determined early on through subtle cues. For instance, when you show up to your first date with someone, you set up who is in charge. Typically, the person with more personal power is going to show up later than the more submissive individual. This is a subtle way of showing who’s boss early on without having to say a word about it to the other person.

When you show up late, you demonstrate that you are more worthy than the other person is. If you’re afraid to be the dominant figure in your relationship, this won’t work very well for you. In a lot of cases, a person will actually be so afraid of being late they will show up early. While being early is a sign of courtesy and respect, it isn’t all that attractive. Most people want someone who is going to challenge them, and someone who is willing to show them some disrespect from time to time.

However, the mannerly types are going to continue trying to impose their will on everyone else, and tell you to show up on time or earlier. It’s almost impossible to show up precisely on time, which by default implies that you’ll usually be early to things. As polite as this is when you’re meeting with your boss or a client, when you’re meeting a date it tends to mean you’re being submissive to them. When you submit to your date, don’t act surprised if you get whipped and told that you’ve been bad. This is just how human interactions work.

Filed Under: Dating Etiquette Tagged With: Dating, Person, power

How Long do you Want to Work?

June 20, 2011 Leave a Comment

Working is one of those crazy things in this world. While most people would rather not be doing so, most of us have to work to keep ourselves fed and out of the elements. While it would be a lot more pleasant to be able to simpy sit around and collect trust fund checks, there is generally a step between fantasizing about it and living it known as working. You can get to the point where you can work on the beach. However, this still requires some effort.

A lot of people think of working as crucial to maintaining their lifestyle. However, what they fail to think about is that their lifestyle can ultimately define their work. A lot of people see it as the other way around, for reasons only they understand. Work doesn’t have to be toil and grind, or even take up a large portion of one’s day. Working only tends to be a long part of one’s day because most people have been conditioned to think of work as trading their time for an infusion of money.

So long as you think of work that way, you’ll continue to put in tons of hours. So when they look back on their lives and see that most of their time was spent working, they might stop to wonder what the ultimate benefit of it all was. If you want your life to go differently than that, your first step is to decide how long you want to work. How many years of your life, and how many hours of your day do you want to spend on doing things to make money?

Filed Under: General, Lifestyle Tagged With: Business, New York City, Trust law

Love is Good

June 19, 2011 Leave a Comment

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At some point in life, most people are going to love someone else. While this love might not be reciprocated and it may end up in tragedy, the point is that at some point most people will find some love within themselves. As much as it usually hurts, love is ultimately a good thing for several reasons. This is for all the people who think it’s nothing but pain because they aren’t feeling good right now.

Love is good because you get healthier when you’re in it. While you might find that you’re constantly afraid of the loss of love when you’re feeling it intensely, you might also notice that you don’t take as long to heal when you’re physically wounded. You might also notice that your blood pressure is lower, which can actually keep you alive longer. Love is one of the most powerful medicines in the world, even when it makes your palms clammy and your heart feel like it’s going to beat out of your chest.

Love is a good thing, not becauseof what happens when it’s gone, but what happens when it’s here. A person finds the strength to overcome any obstacle when their spirits are buoyed by the power of love. While it may sound sappy, the greatest strength is found when a person is in love. No other emotion can compare to its sheer power. Fear and hatred can be overcome, but love moves mountains all by itself. This type of power is great because it doesn’t cost anything, and almost everyone gets access to it at some point in their lives.

Filed Under: Love, Relationships Tagged With: Arts, Blood pressure, Relationships

Make it a Movie Night

June 18, 2011 Leave a Comment

Want to do something, but don’t have lots of cash? Make it “movie night” at the house; it’s so cheap that it could be done for free – or, someone could make a few bucks and friends will want to do it again.

Just about everyone has a DVD player these days. If one needs to be borrowed, do it and set up plans with friends to come over. Decide which movie will be seen and then go rent it – they’re only a couple of dollars at most.

Call friends and tell them which movies are going to play, and ask each one to bring something different. Have one friend bring chips, another one bring soda or beer, and another one to bring popcorn.

Make Movie Night Pay You

Michael, in Portland, Oregon had an idea, too; he invited six friends and asked each one coming to bring $2 to pay for the whole night, movie and popcorn. Then, he got whatever snacks were wanted, being reimbursed as the friends come over and give their $2.

He already had microwave popcorn, so he only bought chips and dip for $5 and two movies cost $6 to rent, bringing his total to $11. Six friends came, gave their $2 each, and the party was free plus one dollar was earned.

Any number of people can enjoy a movie night with friends for very little, and there are enough movies to do it regularly. Someone could have a movie night every Friday with friends and never spend much at all.

Filed Under: Marriage, Relationships Tagged With: DVD player, Popcorn, Popcorn bag

Controlling Your Spending Habits

June 17, 2011 Leave a Comment

Learning to control spending can be a difficult lesson, and many people learn the hard way. It isn’t an uncommon situation for people both young and old to accumulate thousands of dollars of debt. For years, credit card companies have made it very easy for many people to make purchases that are outside of their means and to keep building up their debt.

The answer to this problem for many has come with prepaid cards. Visa cards, like the prepaid Reach Visa card, give people the credit and the security they need, but they keep people within a certain spending limit. You can’t spend more than you have with a prepaid card because you must deposit money into the account in order to use it. You can treat the card just like a checking account but use it for things that you need a credit card for, such as online purchases.

If you need to control what you are spending, get in the habit of checking your card balance before you go shopping. This will help you know how much you have to spend. It may encourage you to look for deals instead of buying the first thing to catch your eye, as well.

Another way to keep your spending down is to make a budget and stick to it. To do this, you’ll need to track your spending for a time so you know where your money actually goes. If you have extra in the budget, set up a savings plan or make a financial goal rather than spending the extra cash.

If you want to avoid costly financial mistakes, control your spending.

Filed Under: Lifestyle, Love Tagged With: Credit card, Debit card, Stored-value card

How Pickup Makes you a Better Person

June 2, 2011 Leave a Comment

Lots of people think that pickup artists are just a bunch of cocky individuals who just want sex. While they may very well come across as a little overconfident and they do tend to enjoy sex, most of the time these are merely byproducts of the methods they use to become better people. Pickup may seem to be about dating beautiful and intelligent women, but it’s ultimately about becoming better people for one’s own benefit.

Consider that learning how to date more effectively is a universal practice among both men and women. While the materials are worded differently and the advice given has different slants to it, men and women both want to become good enough to date the best of their desired gender. While it might appear that the entire point is to get more lovers, the point is actually to become a better lover and attract someone you now deserve to be near. A lot of people just don’t understand that part, because they’re too focused on what’s on the surface.

Beneath the surface, you need to be emotionally stable and not take things too personally. You also need to see each person you speak to as practice for later on, and learn from every interaction you can. When you have those lessons mastered, you can start to add extra skills that can make you more interesting, such as story telling. Through interacting with thousands of people, a pickup artists becomes almost sagely about how to interact with and eventually understand their fellow human beings. When a person really understands other people as well as himself, that is the height of personal development.

Filed Under: General, Tips Tagged With: Advice, Pickup artist, Relationships